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Guiding Students Through Matric Stress: How Parents Can Help Without Overwhelming Them

by Thaabit Kamaar
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South Africa – With matric exams currently underway, the pressure is mounting for students, teachers, and parents alike. Effectively managing this stress is vital to ensure matriculants can perform at their best without feeling overwhelmed.

Educational Psychologist Yasmin Omar emphasises explicitly the impact of parental expectations on a student’s experience during this challenging period. While it’s natural for parents to hope for excellent results, she believes that setting high goals or expecting distinctions can sometimes backfire, causing anxiety and fatigue.

“This is where the dilemma begins, as it leads to a host of other anxiety issues. Parents are leaning in on their children but are unsure how much support is appropriate.”

“I think the most important message we can give to parents is not to be overbearing and to not go too much into their child’s space. You have to keep a close eye on them because there are signs that you will notice and will be evident. But let them get on with their studies.”

As such, Omar encourages parents to remember that grades don’t solely define a child’s success. By acknowledging and celebrating their progress throughout the year and their preparation for the exams—no matter how small—parents can help nurture a more positive mindset.

“If your child has done their best at 56% and you know they’ve given it their best, encourage them. Say, ‘I know you can do better, but I’m happy with that.’ In that way, it’s self-motivating as well.”

“You do get some children who are extremely relaxed—too relaxed—and parents feel the urge to push. But you should not be overbearing at all points in time. Just remember the boundaries.”

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Stop Comparing Them to Each Other, Warns Omar

Another significant issue arises when parents compare their children to others, whether it’s siblings, relatives, or peers. Though competition can motivate, Omar warns that constant comparisons can leave students feeling inadequate, further eroding their confidence and exam performance.

“I think one thing that we do know but tend to forget is that each child is an individual, and they have their own strengths and weaknesses. We should not be comparing, you know, comparing in terms of Iman, as that is more important than grades.”

Ultimately, Omar urges parents to balance providing support and allowing their children the space to handle their responsibilities. Offering encouragement and guidance without being overbearing is crucial to successfully helping students navigate this critical time.

“There’s lots of anxiety around the final exams because it’s considered a final watershed opportunity for young people, and many don’t understand their options. Keeping calm and maintaining perspective is very important, and parents should nurture that by encouraging good habits—eating well, staying hydrated, working steadily, and planning according to a schedule.”

“Remember, don’t be too proud to ask for help. We are in a society where we can lean on one another, so ask for help if you need it. If you require extra tuition for a few things, go ahead and seek assistance. Let’s support one another through this.”

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